Month: January 2015

submissivefeminist:

I’m a survivor, too. The thing about rape-play is that it can be really beneficial to some of us who have experienced a sexual assault, while others will be repelled by the idea.

It first glance, it seems weird, right? Why would someone who has experienced a sexual assault want to act out a rape scene? Well, honestly, this leads to a lot of survivors feeling guilty for their desires after their assaults. However, it’s a really common thing for people into BDSM who have experienced assault to want to try this.

Rape-play, like any kink, is done by communicating desires and safety needs. The survivor is able to express specific triggers and limits before the scene. They are able to feel safe with their partner, and yet put themselves in an agitated state. Psychologically speaking, the best way to get over fears is exposure to them. By acting out rape scenes with a trusted partner, many survivors have been able to “take back” the experience of being assaulted. They sometimes feel stronger, more empowered, or just use this to work on reducing their PTSD symptoms. 

Imagine if someone experienced a horrible situation, but they were able to relive it in a way where they controlled everything and where they received loving and affectionate aftercare if it goes too far. It’s really powerful for some people to experience this, and it makes sense if you really think about it. Not everyone would be able to handle it, and that’s okay. But survivor-to-survivor, I hope you can understand that regardless of the sense it makes to you, it works for many people, and we have the right to consent to this to improve our mental health.

I hope that helps give you more of an understanding.

xx SF

Super interesting. I’m not personally into this idea at all. But i do think about how to get over past hurts. Nothing as intense as this. But seems like an empowering thing.